You want you kids to remain ‘kids’ for a long time, preferably forever, but at some point they have to grow up and when they do you want them to be ready for the challenges that life is going to throw at them. That benign the case there are certain decisions that you will need to let them make for themselves. As a parent it is your job to make sure that they are doing the right thing, but in some cases there are clear consequences that they must learn. Additionally, they must learn who they are and what they like before venturing out in the real world on their eighteenth birthday. Let’s take a look at four decisions your kids need to make on their own.
How to Spend Money
Your child might not have a great amount of money during their early life, but that doesn’t mean they won’t have an allowance, and they must learn how to spend money. You can show them how to go to the store and how to choose items that they might like, but when it comes right down to it, you can’t choose what they buy, at least as long as it is nothing inappropriate. They need to learn that money is not an infinite resource and the best way to show them that is to allow them to spend it on what they want. While they might not see the significance right away, they will certainly pick it up over the years and it will be a valuable lesson.
This probably seems like yet another small thing, but allowing a child to choose how their room is decorated can be HUGE. It is a part of their personality and it permits them to finally have control over something in their lives. Remember: parents often make decisions for their children, and allowing them to carve out a niche for themselves is incredibly valuable. So let them have this, let them decorate it with superheroes, let them collect toys, let them have books – it can be a great way to help them build up their self esteem.
There are many parents out there who are of the belief that they need to dictate their child’s every move but this is not always the healthiest way to go about things. In fact it would be far healthier to let them choose their own activities so long as they are healthy and safe.
Ah yes, sports. Extracurricular activities can be especially harrowing for a parent and you might be against the idea of football, boxing, wrestling, or many others. Once again however, letting your child have that freedom and the ability to build their own experiences will carry them far in the real world.
These are just four items that your child needs to decide for themselves but you can be rest assured that more will come up eventually. Keep an eye out, listen to the advice of others, and most importantly, listen to your guy.